I DO NOT - feature story

Julia is an old friend of mine. We go through a similar situation on some levels. We are both aged but not married. Fortunately, I escaped this situation, but she has remained in Shanghai and has been suffering from constant pressure by parents and elder people. This has made her doubt about her self in many cases... and she is not the only one who has to face this type of situation.

I visited her when I went back to Shanghai last September. She had just undergone a uterine fibroids surgery. I spent a lot of time with her and her family, sharing our views on marriage as a source of stress. I also had a long conversation with her mother. I sincerely empathize with her point of view as a parent, but I still think that in some cases we still need to stand our ground.